This video, “Grooming Happens to Grown Ups Too” by Sarah McDugal is a great case study in adult grooming and a great summary of what adult grooming looks like.
It’s tempting to view this as just someone trying to hit on a woman.
But the patterns she’s showing are repeated patterns – a pastor is trying to hit on her. The testing the water, the targeting. The guilt plays. The excuses. The power trip. The entitlement. Passing off something insulting as a joke.
Our research into grooming reveals that it is often people in positions of power and authority who try and groom. Pastoral abuse is often in the headlines. This video helps explain why it is.
Women often fall prey to this and wonder if they are misreading the situation. We want to see the best in people, and don’t want to anger someone by using the clear retorts that were given in this story.
So as a summary, this video helps us get to a clearer understanding of grooming.
Her advice is sound: our research shows that most people who’ve been groomed know/knew something was up – follow your gut.
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