This site had to give up naming perpetrators – it was landing us (me) in hot water under harassment laws, ironically (although never as much as the man who groomed me suggested!). But that doesn’t mean we can’t signpost adult grooming stories, some of which we blog, others just link to media coverage/sources. Hopefully these cases will help offer a clearer picture of what grooming is and the damage it does.
Sexual Grooming of Young Adults
Claire’s story: When Claire became a teenage model, the agency owners groomed her for sex, cleverly waiting until she was an ‘adult’ to have penetrative (male) sex with her. She tells the story in her book, which we’ve reviewed here.
Read Claire’s story here: https://caageorg.wordpress.com/2019/06/16/book-review-what-lies-behind-the-curtain/
Wendy’s story: A lot of Wendy’s story can’t yet be told because of ongoing legal action. But she was groomed for money, and if it can happen to a psychologist, it can happen to anyone. (Wendy is our own counselling psychologist at CAAGe)
Meet Wendy here: https://caageorg.wordpress.com/2019/02/26/introducing-wendy-gregory/
A carers story: CAAGe was approached when an elderly relative was clearly being groomed by someone unscrupulous for money. They kindly let us share the advice we researched.
Elderly grooming: see how we advised a family member: https://caage.org/2019/02/20/groomed-for-money/
Christine’s story: How could I have been so foolish? A widowed millionairess, abandoned by Gambian husband of two years, finds her fortune at risk. (Seealso Marriage Fraud)
See Christine’s plight here: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2060502/Widowed-millionairess-abandoned-Gambian-husband-wants-fortune.html
Grooming into Radicalism
Shamimas’s story: When a teenage girl decides that a life abroad with a husband is going to better than life here, someone’s groomed her, radicalised her, taken her to the point where at 19 she’s seen some of the worst that life can bring.
See why we believe Shamima Begum was groomed here: https://caageorg.wordpress.com/2019/02/17/shamima-begum-was-groomed/
Lara’s story: Lara Hall was lured away from home, groomed into a loving relationship that turned out to be anything but.
Read Lara’s story here: hthttps://caage.org/2019/01/30/sajjad-groomer-imprisoned-lara-hall-australian-lawyer/
Mary’s story: Mary left her home in Benin City, Nigeria for what she hoped would be a better life in Italy.
Read Mary’s story here: UNICEF: Fleeing Boko Harem
Claire’s story: When Claire met her ‘perfect’ match, little did she know that he was something way more sinister. (Claire is the lead campaigner at CAAGe.)
Read part of Claire’s story here: https://caageorg.wordpress.com/2018/08/29/why-i-identify-sw-as-a-groomer/
Terri’s story: When Terri discovered the true nature of the ‘honourable, principled’ man she was ‘dating’, and worked out that she had been groomed by him, she didn’t hesitate to warn others
Read Terri’s story here: https://caage.org/2018/08/09/rape-by-deception/
Stephanie’s story: a wealthy farmer and former architect who wanted to settle down in the country with his kelpie and have fun weekend getaways was none of the above.
Read Stephanie’s story here: ABC: Stephanie Woods’ story
Anna’s story: When Anna was groomed into a relationship by a prolific groomer who used an online dating platform to ‘catfish’ her, it spurred her on to campaign against catfishing.
Read about Anna and her petition here: https://caageorg.wordpress.com/2018/08/17/anna-rowe-and-her-petition/
Other Catfishing stories:
- The Metro: What it’s like to be catfished (Five stories)
- Buzzfeed: 17 of the Most Insane Catfish Stories
- Mail Online: Dating Scam Fraud
- Daily Mail: One of 400 catfishing victims
- ABC News: Diary of an online dating scam
- BBC: The Fraudsters Marrying for UK Visas
- Center for Immigration Studies (US) Lopez and Hussain, marriage fraud
- Michelle, Kirsty and Elaine talk about how they were groomed for visas: Marriage Scams
- Marriage Fraud: Stories from Victims (Note that Canadian regulations on residence have reduced since this video was made.)
- BBC: Kim Sow’s marriage fraud experiences
Abuse of Power: Fame, Authority and Trusted Roles (Inc Clergy Abuse and Cults)
Examples might include priests, a teacher, a tutor, a coach, a doctor
- Allure: What is sexual grooming? (The R Kelly story)
- Mirror: 15 year old [male] groomed by teacher, 47
Modern Day Slavery
- VICE: Sisters groomed into sex cult
- YouTube: Recruited into Scientology
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