This week, a highly respected colleague, Dr Jessica Taylor of Victim Focus, declared that we’ve all been groomed.
Her points are:
- We have defined ‘grooming’ to be too narrow
- Grooming happens constantly, to all of us, and by all of us
- Professionals are expert groomers
- Victims of abuse need to know that grooming is common and constant
- Grooming is hard to ‘spot’ because we are all socialised to accept grooming in everyday life – it is unfair to expect women and children to be able to do this
Although the sentiment is in many ways right ‘on the money’, this is not describing grooming.
And whilst the article is helpful in describing why groomers succeed, it is unhelpful in describing it as “normal”. I hope she’ll understand why I feel the need to write a response.